25 Things I know now as a parent
>> Thursday, July 15, 2010
I am learning as I go. I make mistakes along the way. Some of the things I just learned last weekend during my trip to Houston, and I am so glad I did. Now I know.
I happened to visit Mama-Om blog page (story will follow) where she posted her "25 things" list. Stacy (Mama-Om) invited parents to make their list.
She read the idea on Supersisters.
Here are 25 things that I thought of first:
1. Love comes first, love is everything
2. Listen to my kid more, talk less, he is about to tell me what is going on
3. Toddlers can think , it is OK to use "big words"
4. It feels good and it is OK to say YES!
5. Listen to my kid in FULL attention
6. My intuition is the right answer.
7. He always need me, no matter what, especially at bed time.
8. Kiss. Kiss. Kiss. It's never enough.
9. Be present, be there, any time, every time. When I am tired that's when he needs me the most.
10. When life is sad, and an adult burden lays on the shoulders of my toddler, do what it takes to lift it. I can "take it for two".
11. Sometimes my kid can go to bed without brushing his teeth and taking a bath. We will brush teeth in the morning (unless he ate too much candy). Exceptions to the rules are nice breaks and special moments.
12. I have to forgive myself for making mistakes.
13. When my son questions why his dad is not with us, I give him love and reassurance. Teach my boy to love his dad no matter what. My kid deserves to have a dad he loves.
14. It's OK for my boy to be shy. It's OK for my boy not to want meat.
15. Always forgive.
16. Set a good example. It is more important than words.
17. My son is not me. He is not here to fulfill my dreams and live the life I want him to. He is his own person, and all he needs is my guidance and love.
18. Watching TV is OK. Playing puzzles is OK. Picnic on the towel on the floor is OK. Ice cream is tasty. We both love outdoors, museums, road trips and more.
19. Read, read and read. Read books. Book stores are amazing.
20. Teach my kid how to keep friends early.
21. Structured schedule is not my cup of tea. We both don't like it.
22. Cooking is what we both do best, especially if things are hard.
23. Laugh, laugh a lot and be happy.
24. Grandparents are priceless.
25. I have to commit to my own personal growth and well-being. It reassures my son and creates a safe space for him to tackle his own challenges, without being worried about me. I have to be happy to make him happy. (in parts are not my words, but I could not say it better). (Supersisters).
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